tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574445214569908416.post7218747753425405205..comments2023-03-24T20:41:54.823-04:00Comments on Laments and Observations: Tale from the dark sideUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574445214569908416.post-21193795213762635062009-01-26T10:34:00.000-05:002009-01-26T10:34:00.000-05:00TB - Yeah, it's a fine line between writing and sh...TB - Yeah, it's a fine line between writing and sharing for therapy and saying too much. The man reads my blog so I run anything potentially damning by him before ever hitting "publish."Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14744113121854452289noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574445214569908416.post-27048275399908430052009-01-26T10:24:00.000-05:002009-01-26T10:24:00.000-05:00While I don't have a T-shirt from that exact place...While I don't have a T-shirt from that exact place, I have one from the next town over. I don't talk about our Rough Patch publicly because it's not just my story to tell - my wife blogs too, and most of my readers know her, and so I don't go airing our dirty laundry because the person I'd be talking about isn't a stranger to them. <BR/><BR/>We acknowledge that it happened (on our blogs, but Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574445214569908416.post-76998097746964285812009-01-24T20:10:00.000-05:002009-01-24T20:10:00.000-05:00Whiskey - Yeah, I think once we got to the point w...Whiskey - Yeah, I think once we got to the point where we stopped placing blame and realized it took both of us getting to the place where we got, we started back on the road to fixing it. Pride is a hard thing to overcome though and it took awhile. And yes; I lost friendships over it and I also found out who was worth keeping around for the long haul.<BR/><BR/>MTAE - Yes, it was amazing who Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14744113121854452289noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574445214569908416.post-10458366812222142962009-01-24T19:36:00.000-05:002009-01-24T19:36:00.000-05:00There is such a big different between support and ...There is such a big different between support and advice. People, many times, seem to WANT to be THE one to help instead of actually concerning themselves with helping the person who needs the assistance.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574445214569908416.post-11952487025905459932009-01-24T19:18:00.000-05:002009-01-24T19:18:00.000-05:00We had a similar "bump" (really, more like a mount...We had a similar "bump" (really, more like a mountain) in the road at five years, but...ahem, only one of us (points finger at self) with another person. The other one was patient and understanding enough to see the situation for what it was, know that it took BOTH of us to get into the situation in the first place, and wait it out. It was a dark, emotionally-charged, strange and uncomfortable Whiskeymariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16680444919622976790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574445214569908416.post-11107075722360282752009-01-24T18:07:00.000-05:002009-01-24T18:07:00.000-05:00shmode - I completely agree and thanks for the goo...shmode - I completely agree and thanks for the good wishes!<BR/><BR/>buoy - It took a long time for me to talk about "the dark period" with people who didn't already know about it because I was embarrassed and felt like either a loser, a failure or a dumbass. Once I started opening up about it to people, I was amazed to find out how many other long-term relationships suffered a serious hiccup Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14744113121854452289noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574445214569908416.post-10258563998140393052009-01-24T17:04:00.000-05:002009-01-24T17:04:00.000-05:00my mother is one of the strongest people i've ever...my mother is one of the strongest people i've ever met, period. she and my father went through a really rough patch for a while in the very beginning of my life, and she's told me stories of getting up and walking out of therapist's offices because they sat there telling her to "just leave him."<BR/><BR/>she tells me, "you can't just walk away from your soul mate when you are going through a Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574445214569908416.post-73075839388317995932009-01-24T13:08:00.000-05:002009-01-24T13:08:00.000-05:00I rarely, rarely hand out advice to others in pers...I rarely, rarely hand out advice to others in person for this very reason. Who the hell am I to judge no knowing the experience of it?<BR/>Good luck with the IVF!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com