tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574445214569908416.post7330641666113714495..comments2023-03-24T20:41:54.823-04:00Comments on Laments and Observations: Gossipy conundrumUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574445214569908416.post-72879777135693764512009-01-15T13:04:00.000-05:002009-01-15T13:04:00.000-05:00Cris - she's not the person I met seven years ago,...Cris - she's not the person I met seven years ago, that's for sure. She really turned into a little bit of a flake and it still surprises me sometimes; I can't imagine how he feels about it since he waited a LONG TIME to get married.<BR/>Damn.Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14744113121854452289noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574445214569908416.post-46025557619502834152009-01-15T13:02:00.000-05:002009-01-15T13:02:00.000-05:00You're not a boob. I think you did the right thing...You're not a boob. I think you did the right thing. It seems like she wanted to be found out...just as it seems like she wanted to be found out cheating on her husband, or she would have been more careful. Or, she's rotten at keeping secrets and deserves the heartache of it. I hope this will spell a better deal on the divorce for your ex.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574445214569908416.post-35214568115499319832009-01-15T11:09:00.000-05:002009-01-15T11:09:00.000-05:00Thank you, Suzy - I was expecting someone to call ...Thank you, Suzy - I was expecting someone to call me a boob. Well, that still may happen.Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14744113121854452289noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574445214569908416.post-36193869430441927312009-01-15T10:27:00.000-05:002009-01-15T10:27:00.000-05:00Yes, you definitely did the right thing. In fact, ...Yes, you definitely did the right thing. In fact, really the only thing you could have done. Tough situation though.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574445214569908416.post-22595961204575427732009-01-15T09:24:00.000-05:002009-01-15T09:24:00.000-05:00Wow; thank you nice people. I really do feel okay ...Wow; thank you nice people. I really do feel okay about it now.<BR/><BR/>TB - yes, my loyalties are definitely with the ex, since he did nothing to deserve her shenannigans to begin with.<BR/><BR/>SL - my husband even brought up the theory maybe that IS why she told me, but either way, I wish she'd kept her mouth shut.<BR/><BR/>MTAE - the ex told me yesterday he asked her about it and left me outKimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14744113121854452289noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574445214569908416.post-70508975238964113722009-01-14T17:01:00.000-05:002009-01-14T17:01:00.000-05:00Yeah...SHE put you in this situation and if she ha...Yeah...SHE put you in this situation and if she has known for for this long, then she really had to know that this was a possible outcome of telling you. <BR/><BR/>I am sure your relationship with you ex-boyfriend is good enough that he will not have to let anyone know how he found out this information.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574445214569908416.post-50249743395862841412009-01-14T16:51:00.000-05:002009-01-14T16:51:00.000-05:00My overwhelming feeling is that you shouldn't lie,...My overwhelming feeling is that you shouldn't lie, and if it was something K didn't want known, she shouldn't have told anyone, especially someone she knows to have contact with her soon-to-be-Ex-Husband.<BR/><BR/>I think you did the right thing.<BR/><BR/>The only other thing you could have done without telling an outright lie would to have told J that you had been in contact with K, but you Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574445214569908416.post-26165699844398450022009-01-14T16:27:00.000-05:002009-01-14T16:27:00.000-05:00I agree with Laura. It sounds like there was an e...I agree with Laura. It sounds like there was an easy decision to make if you were forced to choose where your loyalties lie. It sucks, but you didn't make the high-schoolishness, K did. You did the right thing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574445214569908416.post-54697534623312076632009-01-14T16:25:00.000-05:002009-01-14T16:25:00.000-05:00Thank you; it just feels high schoolish and wrong....Thank you; it just feels high schoolish and wrong.Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14744113121854452289noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574445214569908416.post-53911960735522004842009-01-14T16:23:00.000-05:002009-01-14T16:23:00.000-05:00FWIW, I think you did the right thing. I understa...FWIW, I think you did the right thing. I understand the conundrum you were in, though. Sucky. xoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com